Monday, December 19, 2005

1.2.3.

1.2.3.
From Mercermachine, who got it from Amara. Sort of. But half as long because I'm lazy. And a meme because my brain is sorta mushy right now.You can ask me three questions. 1.2.3.No matter how random, revealing, rude, naughty or pointless, I promise to answer them 100% truthfully.[Repost this to see what others ask you...]

Heck. Nobody's gonna ask anything anyways. Just for the hell of it...

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Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

1. Did you know that many gifted children & adults are misdiagnosed as suffering from ADHD or bipolar disorders?

2. Did you know that you are exhibiting certain typical characteristics of giftedness in your blog?

3. Do you realise that you may be sabotaging your own goals by applying the wrong strategies?

For you, Mr Wang recommends:

The Gifted Adult, by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

Goals!, by Brian Tracy; and

How to be Brilliant, by Michael Heppell.

You are rare, Mr Project Better Man, and very special. Mr Wang is psychic, and knows this to be true. Mr Wang cannot explain it to you in any other way.

9:31 am  
Blogger PC said...

Thank you Brother Wang... I shall read the books that you have recommended.

When I was first diagnosed with ADHD, I went through a period of mild depression... the idea that I could have a disorder was tough for me.

Gifted? Hmm... look up look down.. can't find leh... but I have been told that I write very well... for a banker..

Thank you for your words of encouragement...

1:47 pm  
Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

You don't think you're gifted because you don't know what it means to be gifted. That is why you must read the literature (especially the Mary Elaine Jacobsen book). Then you can judge for yourself whether you are (a) gifted, and (b) misdiagnosed with ADHD.

Think of giftedness as a personality, rather than something like an IQ score (which it is not). Then let me describe you to yourself:

Intense. Requires a lot of time alone to think. Feel strong impulses to improve things. Defiant of authority, when you feel you are right. Very inclined to set goals. Perfectionistic. Often you're able to sense / guess correctly what the people around you (colleagues etc) are thinking / feeling, what their motivations are; you sometimes frighten people precisely because of that. Individualistic. Strongly principled. Spend a lot of time thinking about "big picture" aspects of whatever interests you (in your case, your whole life, that is why you think about things like how you want to be remembered at your funeral).

Mr Wang has just described you perfectly. Yes?

When you, a gifted person, mismanage yourself through failing to understand your own giftedness, you will start exhibiting the ADHD symptoms. You may even exhibit the bipolar symptoms (mood swings - from depression to manic joy). Don't be afraid. YOU can manage these. The first step is to understand yourself.

3:21 pm  
Blogger PC said...

hmm.. now.. where did you hide that pinhole camera in my home? *shiver*

3:30 pm  
Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

This is about children, not adults, but it could well have been. Excerpt taken from here.

How Can Parents or Teachers Distinguish Between ADHD and Giftedness?

Seeing the difference between behaviors that are sometimes associated with giftedness but also characteristic of ADHD is not easy, as the following parallel lists show.

BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED WITH ADHD (BARKLEY, 1990)

Poorly sustained attention in almost all situations

Diminished persistence on tasks not having immediate consequences

Impulsivity, poor delay of gratification

Impaired adherence to commands to regulate or inhibit behavior in social contexts

More active, restless than normal children

Difficulty adhering to rules and regulations

BEHAVIORS ASSOCIATED WITH GIFTEDNESS (WEBB, 1993)

Poor attention, boredom, daydreaming in specific situations

Low tolerance for persistence on tasks that seem irrelevant

Judgment lags behind development of intellect

Intensity may lead to power struggles with authorities

High activity level; may need less sleep

Questions rules, customs and traditions


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Can you see the similarity? The thing is, you are also exhibiting other gifted characteristics. List of characteristics taken from here and I have put in bold those aspects which I can already see/sense from your blog although you haven't even written very much yet:


perfectionistic and sets high standards for self and others

has strong moral convictions

is highly sensitive, perceptive or insightful

fascinated by words or an avid reader

feels out-of-sync with others

is very curious

has an unusual sense of humour

a good problem solver

has a vivid and rich imagination

questions rules or authority

has unusual ideas or connects seemingly unrelated ideas

thrives on challenge

learns new things rapidly

has a good long-term memory

feels overwhelmed by many interests and abilities

is very compassionate

feels outrage at moral breaches that the rest of the world seems to take for granted

has passionate, intense feelings

has a great deal of energy

can't switch off thinking

feels driven by creativity

loves ideas and ardent discussion

needs periods of contemplation
searches for ???? in their life


feels a sense of alienation and loneliness

is very perceptive

feels out of step with others

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Go think about it, Mr Project Better Man.

4:53 pm  
Blogger MercerMachine said...

"It's hard to see the picture when you're inside the frame."

5:02 pm  
Blogger PC said...

wow...

5:51 pm  
Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

Aren't you glad, Mr Project Better Man, that Mr Wang is here to bake you some good karma?

Get ready to throw away your pills.

6:37 pm  
Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

Hey PBM, so what do you think??? More info for you.

3:02 pm  
Blogger PC said...

Mr Wang.. :o)


Thanks so much for providing so many resources for me.. I'm so overwhelmed! After reading the descriptions of giftedness, I would be surprised if I was not gifted *grin*

There's one thing that I could not explain and could not attributed to ADHD; and that is my sense of moral obligation.. especially when it came to work. I was selling investments for a few years, and was doing very well (I entered the industry at the beginning of the market surge). When the crash came, I saw my clients' portfolio values drop. None of my clients ever blamed me, as I had taken great pains to help the client understand his investments / risks as best as possible. Still, I found that I could not sleep at night....

I've been prescribed the "Concerta" drug, which is slow-release form of Ritalin, just in case. I've only tried it once, and found that it really did help me focus.. I'm not one for drugs, so I haven't taken any since.

All this only tells me that I need to find out more about this giftedness. Will pop by the library over the next few days and see if I can obtain those books you mentioned.

Thanks so much once again, Brother Wang.. *grin*

11:50 am  
Blogger Mr Wang Says So said...

Merry Christmas, PBM. I am happy for you, really happy.

Another important resource for you will be the first few chapters of Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi's book "Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Experience". It is not a book about gifted people but the first few chapters talk about something you need to understand - Mihaly calls it "psychic energy".

Gifted people simply have a lot of psychic energy, more than others. It makes us intense. It makes us obsessive. It gives us the ability to think long and hard and rapidly. Properly utilised, it powers our way to achievements and success. But when it spins out of control, we experience problems that resemble ADHD and/or bipolar tendencies.

3:23 pm  

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